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"Here are women who sing about sex. Sexuality. Contemporary womanhood. Wholeness. Arrival. […] The record dismantles the idea that marriage, commitment, or monogamy ruins one’s sex life. It challenges the notion that a woman’s life should be lead in complete service to her child. This album is widely successful because it makes women feel good about themselves. I can see how that might be confusing for some […] Detractors decried the album’s explicit content in typical "Won’t someone think of the children?" form, seemingly forgetting that the singer is 32 and under no obligation to parent any child but her own. BEYONCÉ introduces Knowles as a sexual being, not a being sexualized by industry. She communicates her proclivities in her own certain terms. And yes, that may sometimes involve a duration on her knees. No, you may not watch." - From Janet To Beyoncé: Why It Matters When Black Women Sing About Sexuality 

And as usually, when women show they are complex, multi-dimensional human beings that are in control of their own bodies and sexuality, our patriarchal society feels threatened and lashes out in fear.

And they should be afraid.

But then they go on to explain what they support and live by—it’s feminism exactly. I think some big actors and musicians feel like they have to speak to their audience and that word is confusing to their audience. But I don’t get it. That’s like someone being like, ‘I don’t really believe in cars, but I drive one every day and I love that it gets me places and makes life so much easier and faster and I don’t know what I would do without it. But that’s everyone else’s trip, not mine. I had a mother who discovered herself in the ’70s and used to go to meetings and wear a sassy scarf.
Amy Poehler’s response to an interviewer’s observation that “You’ve always made it clear that you’re a feminist. It’s a term that a lot of people back away from these days.”
Feminism is not about who opens the jar.

It is not about who pays for the date. It is not about who moves the couch. It is not about who kills the bugs. It is not about who cooks the dinner. It’s not even about who stays home with the kids, as long as the decision was made together, after thinking carefully about your situation and coming to an agreement that makes sense for your particular marriage and family.

It is about making sure that nobody ever has to do anything by “default” because of their gender. The stronger person should move the couch. The person who enjoys cooking more, has more time for it, and/or is better at it should do the cooking. Sometimes the stronger person is male, sometimes not. Sometimes the person who is best suited for cooking is female, sometimes not. You should do what works.

But it is also about letting people know that it is okay to change. If you’re a woman who wants to become stronger, that’s great. If you’re a man who wants to learn how to cook, that’s also great. You might start out with a relationship where the guy opens all the jars and the girl cooks all the meals, but you might find that you want to try something else. So try it.

4 ignorant delusions people have about feminism (via brutereason)

August 04, 2014

BY MIRI MOGILEVSKY

It’s not news to anyone when men oppose feminism. When women, do, though, it goes viral. Call it the man-bites-dog of political news.

The Women Against Feminism Tumblr is a fascinating catalogue of grievances that largely argue against a feminism that few women (if any) actually profess. Now, I won’t claim that every woman who claims to be “against feminism” just doesn’t know what it is; there are obviously people of all genders who accurately understand feminism and still oppose it.

For instance, you may be a genuine non-feminist if you think that there is no sexism anymore, that catcalling should be taken as a compliment, that the only women who get raped somehow deserved it (and men just don’t get raped, I guess, or they deserved it too?), and that there are circumstances in which people owe each other sex.

Congratulations! If you believe any of the above, you are probably not a feminist. But your beliefs are still wrong.

Others, however, clearly misunderstand it. Many of the posts on theWomen Against Feminism Tumblr parrot silly myths like “feminists hate men,” “feminists think that women and men are exactly alike in every way,” “feminists won’t let me be a stay-at-home mom,” and “feminists think it’s wrong that I ask my husband to open jars for me.” In fact, a Vicearticle by Allegra Ringo has pointed out how many submitters to WAF seem to think that opening jars is the ultimate feminist litmus test.

There is no One True Feminism, and I can’t speak for anyone but myself. There are feminists who hate men and feminists who think that men and women are exactly alike in every way, sure. There are all sorts of people in the world with all sorts of beliefs that may or may not be based on empirical evidence.

But the feminism that the women of WAF are rejecting doesn’t sound like any I’ve encountered. Here’s what they miss.”

princessoffloral:

collectiveassbutts:

earthswinds:

I need feminism; because the bra straps of a twelve year old shouldn’t make a 40 year old married principal with two daughters “uncomfortable”

So am I allowed to walk around adult women who are mothers and grandmothers at work with my cock out or what

in what world is someone’s dick equivalent to a fucking bra strap

Y’know, as far as I know and correct me if I’m wrong, you can’t get arrested for flashing your bra strap in public.I know it’s hard to believe, but if a woman’s bra strap is showing she won’t be brought up on misdemeanor charges of indecent exposure and have to serve time in county jail. It’s madness I tell you! I mean whipping out her bra strap more than once still doesn’t make a difference to the police! She won’t get charged with a felony and/or, in some states, registered as a sex offender. I know, I know. It’s a crazy, unfair world we live in. Where’s the justice?!

silver-screen-scream-queen:

7yr-bitch:

nerd—vana:

3rdquartermoon:

i-wanne-be-your-arabella:

Kurt Cobain was so important

So amazing

Here’s the video


He was a self proclaimed feminist, which is why he was greatly respected by women and men like him, and still is to this day despite his passing..

This is why he was one of my favorite people aside from his music. I love how the rest of the band are joining in on calling the guy out, getting the crowd to taunt the guy as he’s being dragged away by security.

silver-screen-scream-queen:

7yr-bitch:

nerd—vana:

3rdquartermoon:

i-wanne-be-your-arabella:

Kurt Cobain was so important

So amazing

Here’s the video

He was a self proclaimed feminist, which is why he was greatly respected by women and men like him, and still is to this day despite his passing..

This is why he was one of my favorite people aside from his music. I love how the rest of the band are joining in on calling the guy out, getting the crowd to taunt the guy as he’s being dragged away by security.

Wow! I’ve never seen such a definitive list. This type of click bait article is usually pretty lame and full of cliches, but I have to say I’m impressed. If you’re one of those guys who think women are a mystery, this one’s for you!

(Oh and just in case you want to read the article referenced in this article, which appears to have been taken down, here’s a link to the cached one. (x)

babythc:

thank u ryden

Jen Corey was crowned Miss DC in 2009 and made it to the top 10 of the Miss America Pageant in 2010. A tall and striking blonde, Jen has battled with overzealous men approaching her since she was a teenager. An incident at a D.C. bar prompted her to use her platform as a beauty queen to speak out against street harassment, a topic that is often dismissed as just ‘boys being boys.’ But Jen and other women argue that there is something more sinister that lies beneath the motivation to aggressively cat-call or approach women in public places: “Street harassment is almost never about sex. It’s about power. Which is the same way we view rape. So saying street harassment is not a big deal is opening up the doorway for men to view women as an object to be obtained.” 

When they talked about “the look” I felt so much rage welling up inside (and honestly some tears, too) because it’s true, we all know that look and we know exactly what it means. 

So basically, vaginas are so shameful and obscene that even art pieces of vaginas should be hidden from public view and if you display or sell replicas of vaginas you could serve 2 years jail time with labor or fines that could be upward of $24,000 (US). However, penises should be celebrated with festivals attended by families with children of all ages. Seems legit. 

A party of male IBM execs are seated near a woman at a restaurant. The execs begin discussing why they don’t like or want to hire women. She begins live tweeting their conversation. And even in the face of this woman actually hearing this conversation, specifically about women, between the IBM executives, there are still people writing her saying “but men” statements and the fan favorite “not all men” has been swapped for “not all companies”…yet somehow it comes off as meaning the same thing. 

agoodcartoon:

Women have an unfair advantage in business because they can get to the top in much fewer steps. An MRA cartoon. - credit to Poopy Palpy

agoodcartoon:

Women have an unfair advantage in business because they can get to the top in much fewer steps. An MRA cartoon.
- credit to Poopy Palpy

Wow. Who would have thought that writing about how my husband searched around for some video games with female protagonists in them for me (which, btw, he actually enjoys playing too) would elicit such a hateful response all because I said he was a feminist. People are calling him names, someone did a photo reply with a gore photo of a dead body with a piece of their hip missing. God, how you guys must feel inside. I’m glad I’ll never be in that headspace. 

I just wanted to let you know that you haven’t taken any of the joy of that post away. You haven’t taken any of the joy of that moment away. I woke up to someone who loves me (just like I have for over the past 20 years) and found him doing something thoughtful for me. He knew that even though I enjoy playing games with male leads, they are plentiful. He knew I had trouble finding games with female protagonists and he understood why it was important to me to be able to play them. You don’t have any power over that moment or the way I feel or the way he feels about me. You have no power at all. Maybe that’s why you’re so angry? *shrugs* So go ahead and stew in your anger. You’re only drinking your own poison and expecting us to die.

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What it's like being married to a feminist geek guy
Me: *plops down on the couch next to him as he plays xbox* Whatcha playing?
Him: I've been searching for games with female protagonists.
Me: Aaawww!
Him: Then I'm playing them a little to make sure they're cool and that they're the type of games you like to play before I download them.
Me: I love you.

It pisses me off when I’m reading articles about the SCOTUS decisions and find that all the commenters are men. I know, I know. Don’t read the comments.

Something to think about.