This Indian actress shut down a reporter for telling her to keep quiet about women’s rights.
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Some examples of how “men’s rights activists” are threatening and intimidating feminists. There is absolutely no justification for this kind of behavior, and I urge all anti-feminist men (and anti-feminist others) to at the very least not stoop to the level of threatening atrocities or publishing someone’s personal information. I may not agree with your points of contention when it comes to the feminist movement, but that will never cause me to harm you or your family. AVFM and similar MRA groups need to be stopped, for the safety of society as a whole.
From “A Good Men’s Rights Movement is Hard to Find” by Jaclyn Friedman
By Laura Hudson
Last week, when artist Tess Fowler got on Twitter and breathed white-hot fury about sexual harassment in the comics industry, the thing that struck me most wasn’t her anger; the real shock, given the scope of the problem and the lack of consequences, should be that more women aren’t that publicly furious more of the time.
Of course, there are many, many reasons not to speak up. If you’re a comics professional, maybe you want to be known for your work, for your accomplishments, not for the fact that some jerk couldn’t keep his hands to himself. Maybe you don’t want the first thing that comes up when someone Googles your name to be a story of your victimization. Maybe you don’t want to be called a slut or a liar when you talk about the sh**ty thing that happened to you (which you will, inevitably), or for people to invent every possible nefarious motivation for your decision to speak up – except the idea that it might be true.
“Naturally, I’ve seen numerous comments since referring to Fowler’s speech as some variation on a “hysterical meltdown,” as though a woman feeling anger about her mistreatment is necessarily pathological, a sign of absurdity and dysfunction rather than self-respect. When men get angry, we call it brave, kickass – we pump our fists in the air. When women get angry it somehow warps; it becomes threatening. We call it crazy, hysterical, unhinged.”
This is such a good article. So on point and so very well worth the read.
Yeah, that’s me, an angry feminist who hates men screaming at a rally.
Wow, Anon. Are you not going to throw in the hairy legs and armpits thing to complete your cliched description of a feminist? (No offense to those of you who don’t shave, you rock. Just trying to make a point) I’ve always found it funny that people talk about “angry feminists” as if that anger has some disconnect with reality. Like the anger just spontaneously manifested itself. Yes, sometimes feminists get angry and we rage out of pure frustration. Why? Some of it is due to overt sexism and misogyny, among other things, but some of it is because of people like you. People that are ignorant to the fact that they are promoting sexism and misogyny by using stereotypes and tone policing. The subtle kind of sexism and misogyny that seeps into your everyday life and your interactions with people. It contributes and that can cause just as much harm.
"Men (and women)" is my least favourite phrase in political science.
"Humans (and those other ones with vaginas, I suppose)".
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I love this image so much.
I’ve seen some women who are offended by this and say it’s ridiculous that her cleavage is showing and things of that sort.
Personally, I think it’s great.
Why should we have an image of a women with her hair tied up and flexing her muscles like she’s a man? (not that that isn’t great too!) In a way it suggests that when our hair is down, our breasts are visible and we wear (GASP) lipstick, we’re somehow lesser than men? We can do it! We can be feminine and successful.
You see what I’m saying here, ladies?
You don’t have to lose your femininity. Being feminine is great. Being masculine is great. Strength is not limited to one way of being.
oh my fucking god, this again
Have you even looked at the actual Rosie the Riveter poster lately?
She’s ALREADY WEARING LIPSTICK. AND MASCARA. AND BLUSH. Her eyebrows have been PENCILED AND TWEEZED. And underneath her work bandana? HER HAIR HAS BEEN CURLED. Rosie the Riveter is a beautiful woman. This image in no way implies that wearing feminine apparel (like cosmetics) is a negative thing.
The reason that she has her hair up and her shirt buttoned and is flexing her arms has nothing to do with prudery, or with trying to be “masculine” (as if shows of physical strength are unique to one gender). It has to do with the information at the bottom of the poster: Rosie is involved in war production. That means doing hard physical labor in a 1940s factory, where large heavy machinery can easily snag a loose lock of hair, or a bit of jewelry, or an undone button. “Makeover” Rosie would not be able to do the real Rosie’s job without serious risk of injury to herself or the people around her. In that sense, the new poster is implying that no, women are NOT capable of doing the same work as men, because they are too weak/vain/self-absorbed/whatever. The old poster is saying that, while still being feminine, women are just as capable of doing the same work as men.
Also? The new and “improved” Rosie was specifically drawn to be ANTI-FEMINIST. “[William Murai] created this image for the Brazilian Alfa Magazine to accompany an article about the End of Feminism. 'The idea was to remake the famous feminism symbol “Rosie the Riveter” [into] a lady who is giving up on her duties and trying to look sexy again.’” (emphasis mine)
Giving up her duties and trying to look sexy? For whom, exactly? According to the artist (and the patriarchy), men. In other words, quit your job, look hot, find a man, gb2 the kitchen, and make me a sandwich, bitch. Also known as THE SAME TIRED-ASS SHIT WOMEN HEAR EVERY. FUCKING. DAY.
The new poster is not “progress.” It is not about women being “feminine and successful.” It’s about the exact opposite: women being reduced to their appearance and their sex appeal according to the standards imposed by the male gaze. She is pretty, but that’s all she is, because that’s all women are supposed to be. The real Rosie (you know, the feminist icon?) is beautiful, and feminine, and strong enough to do the work necessary to keep her country safe, just the same as any man. Her worth is not in her appeal as a decorative object, but in the product of her labor and her own awareness of her abilities.
Rosie the Riveter. Accept NO substitutes.
Sometimes I really worry about our history being erased due to ignorance of about our history.
It’s closely associated with sexual assault. And yet we’re reluctant to tell men to stop doing it.
In one awful high-profile case after another—the U.S. Naval Academy; Steubenville, Ohio; now the allegations in Maryville, Mo.—we read about a young man, sometimes only a boy, who goes to a party and ends up raping. As soon as the school year begins, so do reports of male students sexually assaulting their female classmates. A common denominator in these cases is alcohol, often copious amounts. But the obsessive focus on blaming the victim has made it somehow unacceptable to warn inexperienced young men that when they get wasted, they are putting young women in potential peril.
A 2009 study of campus sexual assault found that by the time they are seniors, many college men will become rapists, overwhelmingly of a fellow classmate. Very few will ever be reported to authorities. The same study states that more than 80 percent of campus sexual assaults involve alcohol. Frequently both the man and the woman have been drinking. The men tend to use the drinking to justify their behavior, as this survey of research on alcohol-related campus sexual assault by Antonia Abbey, professor of psychology at Wayne State University, illustrates, while for many of the women, having been drunk becomes a source of guilt and shame.
Let’s be totally clear: Perpetrators are the ones responsible for committing their crimes, and they should be brought to justice. But we are failing to let men know that when they drink their decision-making skills into oblivion, they can do terrible things. Young men are getting a distorted message that their right to match each other drink for drink is proof of their masculinity. The real masculine message should be that when you lose the ability to be responsible for yourself, you drastically increase the chances that you will become the kind of person who, shall we say, doesn’t have others’ best interest at heart. That’s not saying all men are rapists; that’s trying to prevent more rapes.
The “Campus Sexual Assault Study” of 2007, undertaken for the Department of Justice, found that the popular belief that many young rape victims have been slipped “date rape” drugs is false. “Most sexual assaults occur after voluntary consumption of alcohol by the victim and assailant,” the report states. But the researchers noted that this crucial point is not being articulated to young and naïve men: “Despite the link between substance abuse and sexual assault it appears that few sexual assault and/or risk reduction programs address the relationship between substance use and sexual assault.”
“I’m not saying all men are rapists,” says one expert. “But when your judgment is compromised, your risk is elevated of perpetrating sexual violence.”
I’ve told my son that it’s his responsibility to take steps to not commit or enable rape. (“I hear you! I’ll stop!”) The biological reality is that women do not metabolize alcohol the same way as men, and that means drink for drink women will get drunker faster. I tell him I know alcohol will be widely available (even though it’s illegal for most college students) but that he’ll have a good chance of knowing what’s going on around him if he limits himself to no more than two drinks, sipped slowly—no shots!—and stays away from notorious punch bowls. If male college students start moderating their drinking as a way of looking out for their own self-interest—and looking out for your own self-interest should be a primary masculine principle—I hope their restraint trickles down to the women.
** UPDATE: Here’s a version of this parody with statistics about college males, drinking, and sexual assault.
This was a beautiful answer to the Emily Yoffe article. If it makes you uncomfortable or incensed while reading it, ask yourself why that is.
Oh god. This is everything I’ve ever wanted to say to people like this. I’m tired. So very tired of repeating myself, “proving” myself. I’m not jumping through your hoops just so that you can dismiss me and the multitude of women that share the same stories. You can’t call our personal experiences “anecdotal evidence” when you hit a point where thousands of women are sharing similar stories of their street harassment, sexually assault, and rape. Individual experiences on that massive of a scale can no longer be considered anecdotal, it’s systemic.
Look. If you’re dismissing feminists who don’t express their anger in the “right way” for you? You’re automatically siding against them. I don’t care what bullshit reasoning you try to come up with to justify why you ignore feminists. The fact is that you’re doing it, and that means you’re supporting the status quo by default. Congratulations!
I’m still just hearing “Feminist’s anger at their experiences needs to be expressed in ways I find acceptable for me to acknowledge it.” Which is just bullshit. Feminists do not need your approval of how they deal with traumatic experiences, and your insistence that they do is just egotistical. It’s just reinforcing the patriarchal idea that women need to fit this model that society has of how they’re supposed to behave- they need to be polite and thoughtful and not at all rude and certainly not angry- not angry enough to be ugly, anyway. They can throw a cute little fit and stomp their feet, but at the end of the day we still need to be able to pat them on the head and tuck them away where we don’t have to think about them at all.
A person who ignores valid concerns because someone is upset is actually just a person who ignores valid concerns. A person who has decided that their feelings are more important than valid concerns. And that’s not someone who would fight alongside me, that’s someone who would hang around to fight as long as it was convenient for them, and is likely going to bail when things get hard. That’s not an ally, that’s a fucking fair weather friend, and I don’t see anything admirable in that.
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This article contains some very useful, very concrete tips on how to attack rape culture in your social circles
You want to know what you can do as a man to help support feminism? Well, here it is. Change happens on an individual basis. Lead by example. Less talk, more action.
I really wish people were better at analyzing their own thought processes. Because with a lot of the guys who fight against feminism, it comes down to two facts: that they can’t even accept the idea that women want to be seen as equal to men, and that they’re afraid that women just want to treat men the way men have treated women for millennia.
But how do you propigate true equality when the scales have been so uneven for so long. People only understand uneven situations within our social economic climate these days. Thats why people get overly outraged at seemingly slight offenses, because its not a one thing issue its just thats another thing laid on the pile of bullshit that makes someone snap.
Sorry I had to reblog, but it was too long for a reply to your post or an ask or apparently fan mail.
Wait, so, is your point “there’s so many ways women want to be equal, it’s just so hard for men to handle all of it”? I mean, that’s what the “one thing issue” kind of sounds like. And I swear, women have to deal with a lot more bullshit than we do, so I have zero goddamn patience for men who want to tell me that women control our society and oppress them.
Look. Gender and racial equality isn’t something that’s going to be fixed in a year. It’s probably not something that’s going to be entirely fixed by the time I’m old. The only way to handle it is to fix it on your own, personal level. Be kind. Be considerate. Be fair. And teach those values to other people. Because it doesn’t matter if you’re not making “go make me a sandwich” jokes if you’re still letting other guys get away with it. You demonstrate that you’re actually a good person and you pass it on to other people. That’s the only way it happens.
And when someone’s trying to climb the societal ladder to be equal with you, the answer is never fucking going to be to tell them to stop climbing so fast. They have enough pushing them back without you adding another thing to their pile of bullshit.